Be A Man: Standing tall in the face of toxic negative stereotypes

Norman Mailer hit the nail on the head 

“Because there is very little honor left in American life, there is a certain built-in tendency to destroy masculinity in American men.” 

We have so many issues tearing at the fabric of what is US culture that we are pulled in several directions to combat each of these crises. Climate alarmism, weaponization of the justice system, election integrity, open borders, antisemitism on college campuses and across the country, and the list goes on and on. However, for the past 50 years the attack on the American male has been accepted and embraced. Now, as a society, we are starting to have a hard time defining what is male or what is a man. We all can remember the question posed to Supreme Court Justice Ketanji Jackson-Brown at "her" confirmation hearing, and where she avoided a specific answer “can you define a woman?”   The definition of what it means to be a man and subsequently how should a man conduct himself has had far reaching effects on our culture and a generation of men who have become confused as to their place in society. 

For our male children and young men everywhere, I say STOP listening to media, television, movies, talk shows and empty-headed dolts with PhDs. Norman Mailer got it right. There is a lack of honor in our society and as such it has targeted males. Just a small look at TV shows like Hugh Beaumont in “Leave it to Beaver”, Robert Young in “Father Knows Best” Andy Griffith in “Andy Griffith Show” and even later with Bill Cosby (I know his issues in real life) emphasized a strong male role model who instructed their children with discipline, compassion, and accountability. They were the leaders of the family. These shows were replaced by the likes of Eugene Levey from “Schitt’s Creek”, Ed O’Neill in “Married with Children”, Jeffrey Tambor in “Arrested Development” to name a few. These men were portrayed as bubbling buffoons, devoid of leadership and virtue. 

We have a dichotomy that to be a strong man you are a loner without commitments; an individual unencumbered by family obligations or if a man has a family he is a weak commercial character that is the anti-thesis of manhood. The idea of the strong family man is the exception rather than the rule.

Proud dad at my son's college graduation

A real man's power resides in his innate values, his sense of balance, intellect, his ability to hold his own in any situation, and his mature handling of relationships. A real man treats a partner, not as an object but with value, with strengths and weaknesses and allows his strengths and weaknesses to be seen but he is not dominated in his relationships. 

Men, true men, need to be real men for all seasons in the modern world and not bend the knee to every fad, movement, or comment from the shrills on “The View.”  The idea of manhood is found in scripture. God is the epitome of consistency and flawless teaching. In Micah 6:8 we can read one of many examples of what God has called men to be. 

“He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God.”

To be a Man, we must develop every element of our masculinity, not just one area. We must become a master of the 3 Ps: Physical, Professional and Personal. In the journey of life, hidden within each one of us lies immense potential waiting to be unleashed. It is this latent ability that, when realized, paves the way for a truly fulfilling and meaningful existence. But , let's be clear from the outset - this isn't about finding shortcuts; it's about putting in the hard work and effort to achieve your aspirations.

Embracing the Journey of Self-Discovery

The road to unlocking your hidden potential begins with self-discovery. Take the time to reflect on your passions, values, and aspirations. What brings you joy? What motivates you to get out of bed each morning? By identifying these key elements, you can gain clarity on the direction you want your life to take.

Setting Meaningful Goals

Once you have a clear understanding of yourself, it's time to set meaningful goals. These goals should be both inspiring and challenging, pushing you out of your comfort zone and towards growth. Whether it's a career milestone, a personal achievement, or a lifestyle change, having goals gives you a sense of purpose and direction.

Putting in the Work

Here's where the rubber meets the road. To unlock your full potential, you must be willing to put in the effort. Success rarely comes easy, and setbacks are a natural part of the process. Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth and learning. Stay committed to your journey, even when the path seems arduous.

Cultivating a Growth Mindset

A growth mindset is essential in unlocking your hidden potential. Believe in your ability to learn and improve, and see failures as stepping stones towards success. Stay open to new experiences, seek feedback, and constantly strive to develop your skills and knowledge. Growth only occurs when you step outside your comfort zone.

Celebrating Milestones

As you progress on your journey of self-discovery and personal growth, don't forget to celebrate your milestones - no matter how small. Each achievement is a testament to your hard work and dedication. Acknowledge your successes, learn from your failures, and use both to propel yourself forward.

The Fulfilling Life Awaits

By embarking on the path to uncover your hidden potential, you are opening the door to a life filled with purpose, passion, and fulfillment. Remember, this journey is unique to you, and the destination is defined by your dreams and aspirations. Embrace the challenges, savor the victories, and never lose sight of the incredible potential that lies within you.

So, are you ready to take the first step towards a life you truly love? The journey may be long, and the road may have twists and turns, but the destination is nothing short of extraordinary. Uncover your hidden potential, and watch as your life transforms before your very eyes.

Let's start this transformative journey together.